Before I had kids, there were lots of things I was never going to do. And there were lots of things I was told never to do, or I’d regret it. Ten years into this parenting gig though, the kids seem to be doing all right, so I can tell you there are a number of choices that I don’t regret. Not at all. Here are some of them:
Breastfeeding my infants on demand around the clock. Breastfeeding past infancy. Not forcing them to wean when they weren’t ready. “Encouraging” them to wean when we both were.
Co-sleeping. “They” said we’d never get them out of our bed. “They” were wrong. If anything I regret not doing it sooner.
Rocking them to sleep. Nursing them to sleep. Staying with them until they fell asleep. Letting them nap in my arms, in the swing, in the car. Those years seem so long ago.
Picking my babies up when they cried. Carrying my kids as long as I could.
Not potty training. Amazingly, they have been out of diapers for a long, long time, despite the lack of candy or sticker rewards!
Encouraging my kids to take part in different activities. Not pushing them into activities.
Having a child in daycare. Working full time. Having a nanny. Staying home. Being a student-mom. Working part time. Working from home. It’s all good. Honest.
Taking a year of maternity leave. Having my kids three years apart. Taking my preschooler out of daycare while I was on mat leave with BB#2.
Putting my kids in French Immersion.
Not forcing them to do homework in Grade One.
Taking a stroller to Disneyland for my almost-5-year-old. Judge away, at least we had fun!
Spending money on books. Reading to my kids after they could read to themselves.
Letting my kids watch TV and play video games. Not letting my kids watch or play everything their friends are watching or playing.
Giving them choice over their hairstyles.
Staying with them on playdates when they were younger. Letting them walk around the block alone together now that they’re older.
Telling them the proper names for body parts and being honest about where babies come from.
Not being Pinterest-perfect.
Letting them believe in Santa Claus. Not getting into Elf on the Shelf.