Dear new mom,
Congratulations! You just grew and gave life to and are nourishing a new human. This is amazing! Be proud of you.
Everything in your life will change now, and probably not in the ways you imagined.
You may not have had the birth you wanted, and though everyone will tell you it doesn’t matter, it’s okay to mourn that.
Take time to write down your birth story.
Whatever you are feeling is normal.
If you don’t experience that overwhelming in-love feeling you expected right away, don’t worry: it’s coming.
And after you do fall in love with your baby and start wondering how you could possibly love another child that much, don’t worry: you can.
Despite what you said before you had kids, you will have conversations about poop.
You will make mistakes. Forgive yourself. Your baby already has.
Babies are not manipulative. Trust yours.
Enjoy this time. But you don’t have to enjoy every minute of it. In fact, you probably won’t. And that’s okay.
Parenting is hard. Don’t make it harder.
Be flexible. What you envisioned might not work for the child that you have.
Make sure you are in some of the pictures.
There will be plenty of time to clean when your child no longer wants to play with you.
The only thing you can count on when it comes to sleep in the first year is change.
Let baby be a baby. Don’t rush your baby off the breast, out of diapers, out of your arms, out of your bed, to walk, to read, to grow up, whatever…Your baby will get there, and you will miss this time. In the words of Gretchen Rubin: The days are long, but the years are short.
Baby smiles and laughter make up for everything.
You are a good mom.